Before you can finish reading my page

another woman will be raped!

Let me help you..
..by sharing my experience

You have no reason to be ashamed!
You did nothing wrong!
You did not ask for this! 
Please get help!

This is a personal page trying to help people who were raped or sexually assaulted in any way. I am hoping to help you with the pain, embarrassment, guilt, confusion and frustration.


This is my story; I am sharing my personal experience. I am not a doctor and not a legal advisor but I am writing from the heart and maybe you will read something that will help you specifically. And this is what I am truly hoping for!

Please be strong!


Somewhere in America, a woman is raped every 2 minutes (U.S. Department of Justice)


Between 1995 and 1996, more than 670,000 women were the victim of rape, attempted rape or sexual assault (National Crime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1997)


In 1996, 307,000 women were the victim of rape, attempted rape or sexual assault (National Crime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1997.)


In 1996, only 31% of rapes and sexual assaults were reported to law enforcement officials that is less than one in every three (National Crime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1997)


Approximately 28% of victims are raped by husbands or boyfriends.

Approximately 35% of victims are raped by acquaintances.

Approximately 5% of victims are raped by relatives.

(Violence against Women. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994]


Approximately 68% of rape victims know their assailant.

(Violence against Women. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994)


All of the following statistics are taken from: Violence against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994:

v     Every fourth rape takes place in a public area or in a parking garage

v     68% of rapes occur between the hours of 6 p.m. and 6 a.m.

v     In 29% of rapes, the offender used a weapon

v     75% of female rape victims require medical care after the attack

v     In 47% of rapes, the victim sustained injuries other than rape injuries

v     At least 45% of rapists were under the influence of alcohol or drugs

v     29% of female victims reported that the offender was a stranger





In 1995, local child protective service agencies identified 126,000 children who were victims of either substantiated or indicated sexual abuse; of these, 75% were girls. Nearly 30% of child victims were between the ages of 4 and 7 (Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Child Maltreatment, 1995)


Approximately one-third of all juvenile victims of sexual abuse cases are children younger than 6 years of age (Violence and the Family. Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, 1996)


According to the Justice Department, one in two rape victims is under age 18; one in six is under age 12 (Child Rape Victims, 1992. U.S. Department of Justice)








But after I tell you my story, I would like to let you know a few more details about this page. I will try my best to give you as much information as possible. I will put up links for legal advice, counseling and other related topics. I will give you a selection of the pages that helped me the most and more. I will explain a few expressions and tell you what I experienced emotionally, legally and physically.

There will also be a few written passages that I wrote while I was dealing with this whole incident.

I really hope, that my page will help you somehow; whether it is for information, education or just plain comfort. Sometimes you will just need someone to tell you the right words. And I hope this page will give you all this and more.







  • In the United States, 1.3 women are raped every minute. That results in 78 rapes each hour, 1872 rapes each day, 56160 rapes ech month and 683,280 rapes each year.
  • 1 out of every 3 American women will be sexually assulted in her lifetime.
  • The United States has the world's highest rape rate of the countries that publish such statistics. It's 4 times higher than Germany, 13 times higher than England, and 20 times higher than Japan.
  • 1 in 7 women will be raped by her husband.
  • 83% of rape cases are ages 24 or under.
  • 1 in 4 college women have either been raped or suffered attempted rape.
  • 1 in 12 males students surveyed had commited acts that met the legal definition of rape. Furthermore, 84% of the men who had commited such acts said what they had done was definitely not rape.
  • 75% of male students and 55% of female students involved in acquintance rape had been drinking or using drugs.
  • Only 16% of rapes are ever reported to the police.
  • more at "Cease"





    Definition of "Rape", examples:



    Source: Merriam-Webster Dictionary of Law, 1996 Merriam-Webster, Inc.

    Main Entry: rape
    Function: noun
    : unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception see also STATUTORY RAPE
    NOTE: The common-law crime of rape involved a man having carnal knowledge of a woman not his wife through force and against her will, and required at least slight penetration of the penis into the vagina. While some states maintain essentially this definition of rape, most have broadened its scope esp. in terms of the sex of the persons and the nature of the acts involved. Marital status is usually irrelevant. Moreover, the crime is codified under various names, including first degree sexual assault sexual battery unlawful sexual intercourse, and first degree sexual abuse.


    Source: Merriam-Webster Dictionary of Law, 1996 Merriam-Webster, Inc.

    Main Entry: 3rape
    Function: noun
    1 : sexual intercourse with a woman by a man without her consent and chiefly by force or deception see STATUTORY RAPE
    2 : unlawful sexual intercourse by force or threat other than by a man with a woman


    Definition from www.medterms.com (http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=12412):

    Rape: Forced sexual intercourse; sexual assault; sexual intercourse between an adult and a minor. Rape may be heterosexual (involving members of opposite sexes) or homosexual (involving members of the same sex). Rape involves insertion of an erect penis or an inanimate object into the female vagina or the male anus. Legal definitions of rape may also include forced oral sex and other sexual acts.

    Heterosexual rape usually refers to an assault in which a male forces himself upon a female, and homosexual rape usually refers to an assault in which a male forces himself upon another male. However, both terms (heterosexual and homosexual rape) have been used to refer to an assault in which a female forces herself upon a male or a female.

    Sexual intercourse between an adult and a minor is known legally as statutory rape. The adult can be found guilty of statutory rape even if the minor was a willing partner.

    Gang rape is a sexual assault in which several persons force themselves upon a victim.

    Date rape is a sexual assault in which the victim is psychologically pressured, drugged or sedated before the rape. Date rape is so-named because it often involves a dating couple. The male may spike a female's alcoholic beverage, making her unable to resist his advances or even unable to remember the rape. Would-be date rapists have used sleeping pills to sedate their intended victims. In addition to adding sleep-inducing medications to alcohol, date rapists also have combined them with marijuana, cocaine and other drugs.

    Rape can also occur in a marriage. Typically, the husband forces himself on his wife at a time when she is unwilling to have sexual intercourse.

    Victims of rape suffer physical and mental trauma. Physical trauma may include cuts, bruises and abrasions in the pelvic area as well as elsewhere on the body. Mental trauma may include overwhelming feelings of humiliation, embarrassment and defilement. Rape victims should seek treatment at a hospital. There, doctors and nurses can treat the injuries, administer antibiotics to prevent sexually- transmitted diseases, and provide counseling or any other additional therapy (mental or physical) that the patient requires. The hospital team's evaluation and report will help document the condition of the patient for legal purposes.

    "Rape" is derived from the Latin word "rapere" (to seize).





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    Rape rates declined after 1991


    Rape Trends Chart [D]

    Note:  Includes both attempted and completed rapes.
    The National Crime Victimization Survey redesign was implemented in 1993; the area with the lighter shading is before the redesign and the darker area after the redesign. The data before 1993 are adjusted to make them comparable with data collected since the redesign. The adjustment methods are described in Criminal Victimization 1973-95. Estimates for 1996 and beyond are based on collection year while earlier estimates are based on data year. For additional information about the methods used, see Criminal Victimization 2003.

    Source: The National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS)
    Ongoing since 1972, this survey of households interviews about 75,000 persons age 12 and older in 42,000 households twice each year about their victimizations from crime.
    Rape - Forced sexual intercourse including both psychological coercion as well as physical force. Forced sexual intercourse means penetration by the offender(s). Includes attempted rapes, male as well as female victims, and both heterosexual and homosexual rape. Attempted rape includes verbal threats of rape.


    National Crime Victimization Survey Violent Crime Trends, 1973-2003

    Adjusted violent victimization rates
    Number of victimizations per 1,000 population age 12 and over

    violent crime
       Aggravated  assault Simple
    Year Murder Rape Robbery
    1973 47.7 0.1 2.5 6.7 12.5   25.9
    1974 48.0 0.1 2.6 7.2 12.9   25.3
    1975 48.4 0.1 2.4 6.8 11.9   27.2
    1976 48.0 0.1 2.2 6.5 12.2   27.0
    1977 50.4 0.1 2.3 6.2 12.4   29.4
    1978 50.6 0.1 2.6 5.9 12.0   30.0
    1979 51.7 0.1 2.8 6.3 12.3   30.3
    1980 49.4 0.1 2.5 6.6 11.4   28.8
    1981 52.3 0.1 2.5 7.4 12.0   30.3
    1982 50.7 0.1 2.1 7.1 11.5   29.8
    1983 46.5 0.1 2.1 6.0 9.9   28.3
    1984 46.4 0.1 2.5 5.8 10.8   27.2
    1985 45.2 0.1 1.9 5.1 10.3   27.9
    1986 42.0 0.1 1.7 5.1 9.8   25.3
    1987 44.0 0.1 2.0 5.3 10.0   26.7
    1988 44.1 0.1 1.7 5.3 10.8   26.3
    1989 43.3 0.1 1.8 5.4 10.3   25.8
    1990 44.1 0.1 1.7 5.7 9.8   26.9
    1991 48.8 0.1 2.2 5.9 9.9   30.6
    1992 47.9 0.1 1.8 6.1 11.1   28.9
    1993 49.1 0.1 1.6 6.0 12.0   29.4
    1994 51.2 0.1 1.4 6.3 11.9   31.5
    1995 46.1 0.1 1.2 5.4 9.5   29.9
    1996 41.6 0.1 0.9 5.2 8.8   26.6
    1997 38.8 0.1 0.9 4.3 8.6   24.9
    1998 36.0 0.1 0.9 4.0 7.5   23.5
    1999 32.1 0.1 0.9 3.6 6.7   20.8
    2000 27.4 0.1 0.6 3.2 5.7   17.8
    2001 24.7 0.1 0.6 2.8 5.3   15.9
    2002 22.8 0.1 0.7 2.2 4.3   15.5
    2003 22.3 0.1 0.5 2.5 4.6   14.6

    Note: 1973-91 data adjusted to make data comparable to data after the redesign. Estimates for 1993 and beyond are based on collection year while earlier estimates are based on data year. Rape does not include sexual assault.

    Homicide data were calculated from the FBI's Uniform Crime Reports. Homicide rates for 2003 are estimated based on 2003 Preliminary Annual Release data.

    Please visit the BJS site for more statistics, click here!

    This is a part of something i wrote after the assault.
    To read more of this piece and other ones visit "My Thoughts"
    "the last two or three weeks have been so surreal that it is hard to even call it a normal life - if there should be such a thing, that is. the events that occured made it feel as if my life was sitting on a carousell that was spinning out of control, and everything not secured tightly just came right off. it more spinned it right of, though - with a tremendous power..."

    "You should live your life like everyday is your first day! You should do what feels right to you and trust in your intuition! Take a minute and breathe! Take some time to look around and see the beauty in things! I know it is hard, especially when you have bad thoughts….but the more you do it the easier it will get!

    Do not do things you do not want to do! Do not let anybody make you feel bad because you said NO – no matter about what!

    You are an individual who has the right to make her own decisions! And if you said NO- NO it is!

    Do not let anybody believe that is wrong! You have to live for yourself and have to live with yourself first!


    You are a beautiful person, inside and out! Do not ever believe anything else!"



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